You beat me to giving a shout to trad games on this one. In our old HERO campaign, the GM basically handled all of this, and it worked pretty well.

An adjunct complaint I will add is that this connection stuff is a hassle (sometimes) in one-shot/con play. IMO. Buncha foreplay but then you run out of time for the actual sex.

Aside: I think Spirit of the Century was maybe the first “setup is play” games.