Hey Paul.

1) I respect you and consider us to be on friendly terms, regardless of the amount that we talk.

2) I’m very glad to hear you’ve come around on the X-Card. Very glad. That was one of my first times facilitating and bringing and X-Card to the table as well, so I think my spiel has improved since then a bit too.

3) I approve of using the X-Card to not just filter out content that makes you emotionally uncomfortable, but things like thematically inappropriate content. I usually now use examples of things like “something that is triggering, or just makes you uncomfortable, or is the exact same as the game you just played, or doesn’t seem to fit the story we’re all telling together” so that it doesn’t have to seem like as BIG of a deal of it happens. Then I tell the story about how one time in a game set in the 50s or something when talking about two dudes who were friends and without thinking mentioned video games and somebody said “video games?” and I was like, “oh yeah” and X-Carded myself.

4) I think my best use of it was at a table when one male player introduced some kind of element that was very gendered, and a female player asked if it could be un-gendered to be more flexible, and they went back and forth a bit without any movement, and I decided to X-Card the original word because it seemed clear it was important, and that was an easier way to resolve the issue.

5) I am now going to mute this G+ thread, because I don’t want to get trapped in the middle of an argument about overall appropriateness of the X-Card, especially in case my particular examples inspire any hostility to be thrown my way. This is not a reflection of you, Paul. Thank you for the kind words.