It’s entirely possible it was me, especially since you mention the patronizing comment. I do this thing where I learn a new-to-me concept, get super excited about it, try to communicate it to others, get self-conscious about using jargon or coming off as elitist, overexplain myself, and end up seeming patronizing instead. It’s a side effect of being academically ignorant but also too curious to stop myself from peeking into the windows of the ivory tower.