Excellent post, that extends beyond rpgs. I got a lot out of this.
I feel a bit of an idiot asking this but what is “AP” aside from analysis paralysis?

I don’t play rpgs but I enjoy these threads and I’m interested in rpgs, but I just turn off when people in my gaming group give blow by blow accounts – as you highlight above.
It also holds true for most other gaming. If I’m spending 6 hours in a basement playing in an LCG or X-wing tournament, I don’t really want to hear your turn by turn account bad beat story; but if we share learning experiences or you phrase your bad beat experience as “how can this be overcome” then it’s more engaging.