Paul Beakley, I feel you, man.  I haven’t had this happen as many times this year as I did last year but I was in a whole different place last year than I am now.   #NewMexiCon  was an emotional ride for me.  One of the most incredible games I had was a Swords Without Masters that I played with Aaron Feild.  I am pretty sure that I had what you are describing happen during this game and during the Clay That Woke game I played with Paul Czege.  

To shortly answer, I do not think it is strange for there to be differences (even really large ones) between the emotional connection (i.e. depth) that players have at the table.  I think out of all the words you offered above that confusing would be closest to the mark.  It is entirely possible that you could be impolite or distracting (particularly in a heightened emotional state) you can also bring an amazing piece of yourself to the table.  For us guys that can be downright terrifying.  But it builds an experience that sticks with you.  That you chew over.  That has changed you inside as a person.  It is one of the reasons we play the games we do.  If you were really not looking for an emotional ride then I wouldn’t imagine you playing the games you do.  I would put forth humbly that your emotional engagement with the game did not detract from the enjoyment of others.  It is entirely possible that it wasn’t even detected by them.  But the fact that you found that place in yourself and brought it to the table probably made the game BETTER.  

Be happy to unpack anything here if you think it would be helpful.