We used to have the same situations in Merchants and Marauders. We’d get so caught up in playing our characters that we’d forget there is a point to winning. Many games someone would just ‘oh shit I won’ while everyone else was just having fun. We’ve gotten over that part now and the game has become ridiculously cut throat and competitive. I’m not sure which mode I like more. Though I think I am to blame for creating that state and pushing for the win.